You have been dumped! You are hurt! It can be very painful thing. You don’t want to eat, to drink – life has no flavor. You might even feel so angry that you want to do something stupid. You don’t care about yourself. And the worst thing is it wont go away that easily.

“How to turn pain into something good? What should be avoided and what turns the pain into something good?” Getting over someone is a hard thing to do but once you have done it you will be stronger.

There are things that can assist you to get over it and you can use to your advantage:
* Use your anger to set and to brake boundary’s. Do some thing crazy that you never dared.
* Use your sadness to get knowledge – Read books and talk to people. Learn from this experience.
* Use your pain for creativity – greatest love songs are created when people are with broken heart. Paint, make pictures, take up acting.
* Grief gives you ability to connect with new friends or lovers. New people make you think differently and give new experiences. Your ex will be forgotten in no time.

Just remember that everything happens for a reason and even this loss is somehow good for you.

First of all you have to make one and final decision that you don’t want your partner back even if he/she begs. Yes the feelings might still be there but it would be better if you learn the art of controlling it no matter how tempting it is to release.

Do not ask him/her to take you back. You will only be seen as a loser nothing more. You don’t need this. Don’t blame yourself for things that went wrong. To end a relationship it always takes two people. There is no point blaming yourself and thinking it is all your fault.Don’t drive yourself nutts with that thought which is not actually true! Know that (breaking up takes) always two sides. Worst thing you could do to get over your partner is alcohol, pills and other stuff. That does not make pain go away. In time heartache goes away by itself just give yourself some time.. you don’t have to ruin yourself because of that! Don’t try to starve yourself! Some people try to punish themselves by doing that. But don’t start to eat like a monster also! Extreme is never good.

To help you get over the situation it would be better if you keep yourself some company to get you through the pain. Be with your family member. It’s not too bad after all you know, you have to learn to move on because at some point you will realize that there are people who plays more important role than the one that you have lost.

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