How to Read Online Dating Profiles

Your profile represents you in the online dating world.

There are a couple of ways to meet prospective dates. Traditional methods imply trust through some kind of reference. Couples are setup by friends or actually meet in person before they date. In online dating trust needs to be earned. The best way to do this is through your own profiles and learning how to read others profiles. Profiles are autobiographical and made to flatter the writer. They have the choice of what to disclose on their life or what to hide. Pictures can hide things or be out of date.

People seem to get unrealistic expectations from reading profiles. They come away with “this is the girl or guy” for me. They know nothing about them, but are already emotionally involved. Then your email is not returned. It is often your first reaction that they are not attracted to you. This is not a healthy way to look at things. There are many reasons why emails are not returned and it is usually not what you think.

Don’t be too selective when cruising online dating profiles. Profiles are not always a good representation of what the person is truly like. Online profiles are written by the person and be will flattering to the writer. Try to look for red flags but you’ve got to send some quantity of emails out. Email is a better filter for quality dates than profiles are. The only profiles that I will automatically decline to email are rants, raves and negativity.

There are some red flags to be aware of though. When selecting your photos include:

A head shot (without a hat)

At least one picture that shows a full body shot.

Kids have no place in this world. Crop them out or don’t use pictures with them.


No phone pictures – they look bad and distort your features. They also show laziness.

Clothes are good. Lingerie and shirtless guys are bad.

Caption with dates are very effective. Pictures older than a couple of years should not be used. You don’t look like that anymore

Represent your age correctly. It is too easy to lie about it and that will end badly. I have done some research and found that there are bubbles before milestone ages. There are too many 49 year olds compared to 50 and 51 year olds. Be honest and show yourself in an energetic and youthful light. Pictures showing activity and writing that expresses energy will overcome your age.

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