As a very trusting species, we humans follow very easily. In our upbringing, we are discouraged from questioning and are also expected to comply at all times. And it seems that we just never shake off our automatic compliance. We see proof of this happening in our own lives, and what we experience emotionally, when we even think of questioning anything or anyone – and not just questioning for the sake of questioning.

Do we ever realize how we really feel about the things we do? Do we realize that we take for granted the way things are and work? So if we hardly question anything or anyone, it goes without saying that we likely are followers. Recapture a moment when our “No” wasn’t no, and our “Yes” wasn’t yes. The reason you might have said yes is because we are not brought up to question – only to follow. Following is enforced on us.

What drives our caregivers? It would be a step in the right direction if we could rely on our caretakers or caregivers, or those in positions to guide us, or the people who are our leaders: if they have their own and our best interests at heart. Can we rely on them? This is not about knocking anyone, but rather, about seeing things as they are.

Let’s look at our parents: our caregivers, our immediate “leaders” or role models. Did they empower us through their guidance so we could take care of ourselves . . . so we can manifest our first-choice existences? Or did they enforce their own will and lives on us, in many cases with force? How many parents and caregivers give guidance and support to those who are in their care? Or is it merely a case of: they are in charge, and with force, they will rule our lives?

Let’s stop for a moment and imagine the lives of our leaders. Do they not, just maybe, also have such a dynamic driving them? Is this, perhaps, where their hunger for power comes from?

Emmanuel van der Meulen is personal coach. He can help you with overcoming your fears. Request your free optimal life newsletter.