If you are in a relationship, or considering one, it is very important to realise that there are two different people involved, with different ideas and viewpoints. You also need to recognise the signs of commitment phobia, in your partner or yourself, and get to work on trying to eradicate those feelings.
Often the idea of ‘forever’ is too much for a partner to contemplate, so the commitment phobia begins. Even a short-term commitment is frightening to many. In these days, when people leave relationships for no special reason, you need to be certain that your partner is fully committed to you and being together.
The thought of losing their freedom is enough to stop some people from even considering a partnership, let alone a committed one. The very thought of having to be with someone constantly is frightening to many.
If a person has a demanding job, or has a special passion in his/her life, they will think about the time they want to spend on those things first. If a person has been unattached for a long period, the thought of commitment is far from their sights. The thought of losing one’s freedom is very scary, and keeps many from committed relationships.
Past hurts and traumas, whether committed by friends, spouses, or family members, will still be with the person, and these need to be addressed if there is to be true commitment in the relationship. Fear of being abandoned, not loved, or any other problem, will keep the person from committing one hundred per cent to the relationship
There are other reasons that make people hesitate about being in a committed relationship. These are normal, such as being too young, or just starting a career or job which requires full attention. In other words, they are not yet ready emotionally to take on a partner. They need time.
If you find out that your future partner is not ready to commit to a relationship, their actions will give you a clue. Often charming and attentive at first, they will begin to cool when they feel that the commitment word will soon be coming up.
Don’t take this as a failure on your part. Rather, try to have a talk and see if you can iron out the problem before it completely destroys your relationship.
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